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Yet the self-healing revolution has overlooked the most significant issue: how to cope with the relentless stresses of raising young children in the twenty-first century. Parents today juggle more tasks, work longer hours, and sleep less than their own parents did.<\/p>\n
Children and partnerships are also impacted by the intensity of modern life, and by the grand and historically unprecedented experiment our society is undertaking with its most precious resource: the next generation.<\/p>\n
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Kids do not \u201cwork it out.\u201d Bullying is cowardly oppressive behavior by people with more power against people with less power, and it can leave scars for a lifetime. Teachers and other school authorities typically don\u2019t like to get involved with this \u2013 it\u2019s messy \u2013 but, too bad, they have to. Justice requires the exercise of authority, in any setting.<\/p>\n Meanwhile, you can help the teenager develop inner resources to reduce the impact of the bullying, like a strong sense of being cared about by others, of personal worth, and of recognizing that the bullies are frankly full of shit and talking out of their own feelings of inadequacy and meanness.<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_accordion_item][et_pb_accordion_item title=”How does one more forward, and not cling to the attachments of sentimental things? (I was asked if it was ok to paint over the height markings from our children on a door jam from many years. Although I was trying to ignore my feelings and be tough, when asked a second time, I broke down in tears.)” _builder_version=”4.18.0″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}” open=”off”]<\/p>\n A beautiful, dear, and touching question.<\/p>\n Maybe in the upper reaches of enlightenment people get so equanimous that painting over their children\u2019s growth chart is just a big \u201cwhatever, dude.\u201d But, I think it is perfectly fine to cherish and take joy in and value certain things.<\/p>\n If we lose any of these things, sure, we should try to not over-react, and try to take them in stride. Sometimes there are ways to hold onto things we love in other forms.<\/p>\n But to imagine that we should not value some things is utterly unnatural. At all levels in the physical architecture of the body or the information-processing architecture of the mind, there are goals and their pursuit. These are values, built into the body and mind. Trying not to have values is itself a value. The only question is whether our values are good ones, and pursued in good ways.<\/p>\n And to me, sentimental objects from raising our children are pretty darn valuable.<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_accordion_item][et_pb_accordion_item title=”What can I do to help someone who doesn\u2019t want to be helped or can\u2019t accept what is offered?” _builder_version=”4.18.0″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}” open=”off”]<\/p>\n I suggest you get a good therapist and work through these issues. You describe what sounds like \u201cbody dysmorphic disorder<\/a>,\u201d a catch-all term for irrational beliefs that some or all of one\u2019s body is ugly, broken, tainted, etc.<\/p>\n Also, under their exterior, many young men have the same self-doubts as you do, including about intimate parts of their body. I know I did.<\/p>\n I also suggest, with respect, that you think in terms of connecting with young women as a kind of ladder, let\u2019s say twelve steps, with a happy marriage at the twelfth step and casual conversation as the first step. Take it one step at a time. Get comfortable at one step, and then gradually open to moving just one step higher. Don\u2019t focus on steps way above you.<\/p>\n In this context, notice and allow young women to have a positive response to you at the step you\u2019re on. Take in this positive response and the good feelings it creates in you. Use this \u2018taking in\u2019 (see my book, Buddha\u2019s Brain<\/a>, for more on this practice) to fill you up gradually, bringing confidence and slowly healing your old pain and insecurity.<\/p>\n In my model of the ladder, here are the steps (don\u2019t take this too seriously, I don\u2019t):<\/p>\n This is about wise view, seeing reality clearly and not being deluded by the legacy of beliefs from childhood. And it\u2019s about being receptive, receiving the gift of women being drawn to you. And they are drawn to you already even if you don\u2019t see it.<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_accordion_item][et_pb_accordion_item title=”How do I handle an adult child who’s continually making bad decisions, has drug and alcohol issues and ends up back in jail?” _builder_version=”4.18.0″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}” open=”off”]<\/p>\n These are just about the hardest sort of situations I know. I\u2019ve never had to live through anything like this myself, so whatever I say is tentative and respectful; there is so much I don\u2019t know here. You may already know everything I say below.<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_accordion_item][et_pb_accordion_item title=”How can I simplify the holidays so I actually enjoy myself and my loved ones?” _builder_version=”4.18.0″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}” open=”off”]<\/p>\n Commit to less. Do as much as possible in advance. Ask others to pick up their fair share of the additional tasks. Don\u2019t get too attached to fixed ideas of how things need to be. Focus on the essentials, the point of the holidays: time off, relaxing, being with loved ones, generosity and gratitude \u2013 and if this is meaningful to you, honoring the original spiritual purposes of this time of year.<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_accordion_item][et_pb_accordion_item title=”What\u2019s it like at your family gatherings?” _builder_version=”4.18.0″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}” open=”off”]<\/p>\n I try not to play psychologist at the dinner table! Still, learning about how the brain evolved has made me really appreciate how vulnerable we are to feeling stressed and anxious; the brain is tilted in these directions. So I\u2019ll deliberately relax my body if I start to feel stressed, or remind myself about the protections and resources in my life if I start to feel unnecessarily worried about something.<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_accordion_item][et_pb_accordion_item title=”My dilemma is wanting to love my parents but being scared of them. What to do?” _builder_version=”4.18.0″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}” open=”off”]<\/p>\n What I might offer is that one approach is to experience your own lovingness (compassion, kindness, benevolence) as a kind of field radiating from you that includes all beings independently of who they are or what they do. Then your lovingness can also become more individualized depending on the person \u2013 leading to more or less closeness with them. But your lovingness itself can be unconditional. Besides the benefits to others, this approach can feel very self-nurturing and uplifting.<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_accordion_item][et_pb_accordion_item title=”Are there therapies that specialize in helping patients access baby memories or very young memories (before hippocampus development)?” _builder_version=”4.18.0″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}” open=”off”]<\/p>\n There are hypnotherapists and others who use \u201cregression\u201d methods to ostensibly and possibly get in touch with what I\u2019ll call \u201cmaterial\u201d rather than \u201cmemories\u201d from the first year or two of life, sometimes even prenatally.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n [\/et_pb_accordion_item][\/et_pb_accordion][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section][et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ prev_background_color=”#ffffff” _builder_version=”4.17.4″ _module_preset=”default” background_enable_color=”off” use_background_color_gradient=”on” background_color_gradient_stops=”#f2f0ed 0%|#ffffff 99%” custom_padding=”100px||||false|false” top_divider_style=”mountains2″ global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_row _builder_version=”4.17.4″ _module_preset=”default” custom_padding=”0px||0px||false|false” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”4.17.4″ _module_preset=”default” pac_dcm_carousel_specific_module_num=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.17.4″ _module_preset=”default” custom_margin=”||0px||false|false” custom_padding=”||0px||false|false” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row column_structure=”1_3,1_3,1_3″ _builder_version=”4.17.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_column type=”1_3″ _builder_version=”4.17.4″ _module_preset=”default” pac_dcm_carousel_specific_module_num=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.18.0″ _module_preset=”default” header_5_font=”|300|||||||” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n 5 Keys to Settling Marital Conflict<\/a><\/p>\n 10 Reasons to Take Good Care of a Father<\/a><\/p>\n 10 Reasons to Take Good Care of a Mother<\/a><\/p>\n 10 Ways to Support Your Partner<\/a><\/p>\n A Father’s Story<\/a><\/p>\n A Parent’s Meditation on Gratitude<\/a><\/p>\n Acne Update: Nothing Like a Blemish to Ruin Your Day!<\/a><\/p>\n Asking for Empathy<\/a><\/p>\n Building Good Will<\/a><\/p>\n The Comforts of Support<\/a><\/p>\n Dealing with Summertime Stress<\/a><\/p>\n Empathy: A Key Relationship Skill<\/a><\/p>\n Empathy for a Partner<\/a><\/p>\n Finding Your Footing<\/a><\/p>\n Foundations of Love<\/a><\/p>\n Getting a Father to Help More with the Baby<\/a><\/p>\n Getting More Help From Your Partner<\/a><\/p>\n Getting More Sleep<\/a><\/p>\n Giving Emotional Support<\/a><\/p>\n Having a Life of Your Own<\/a><\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=”1_3″ _builder_version=”4.17.4″ _module_preset=”default” pac_dcm_carousel_specific_module_num=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.23.1″ _module_preset=”default” header_5_font=”|300|||||||” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n How a Parent Gets Depleted<\/a><\/p>\n How to Lower Your Stress<\/a><\/p>\n Issues with Relatives<\/a><\/p>\n Letting Go<\/a><\/p>\n Making It Work to Stay Home from Work<\/a><\/p>\n Making Time for Your Relationship<\/a><\/p>\n The Marathon of Parenting<\/a><\/p>\n Resolving Quarrels<\/a><\/p>\n Restoring Love<\/a><\/p>\n Self-Awareness for Kids and Grownups<\/a><\/p>\n Sharing the Load<\/a><\/p>\n Skillful Responses to Child Wants<\/a><\/p>\n Speaking from Your Heart<\/a><\/p>\n Swimming up Stream<\/a><\/p>\n Taking in the Good Stuff<\/a><\/p>\n Talking About Parental Values<\/a><\/p>\n Translating Mom-Speak and Dad-Speak<\/a><\/p>\n True Love<\/a><\/p>\n What “Mom” Can Do for “Dad”<\/a><\/p>\n When Kids Are Distractible or “Hyper”<\/a><\/p>\n Where’s Dad?<\/a><\/p>\n Navigating Mental Health Challenges in College<\/a><\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=”1_3″ _builder_version=”4.17.4″ _module_preset=”default” pac_dcm_carousel_specific_module_num=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.18.0″ _module_preset=”default” header_5_font=”|300|||||||” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n Family Nurture Part 1<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n Family Nurture Part 2<\/a><\/p>\n Family Nurture Part 3<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n Honoring Fathers \u2013 and Keeping the Spark Alive<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n Teamwork and Intimate Friendship after Children<\/a><\/p>\n Happy Families<\/a> – interview with Christine Carter<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” header_5_font=”|300|||||||” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n Mindfulness Curriculum in NZ<\/a><\/p>\n Taking in the Good Claymation<\/a><\/p>\n Awakening Joy for Kids – Tips from Michele Lilyana<\/a><\/p>\n Little Flower Yoga and Mindfulness for Children<\/a><\/p>\n Mindful Schools<\/a><\/p>\n Hug the Monkey and Pet the Lizard Activities for Kids<\/a><\/p>\nFREE AUDIOS<\/h5>\n
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